There are 4 key demonstrations of higher value that you need to focus on conveying if you are to prove successful during the initial attraction stage.
You have to prove that there are other women who find you attractive which is the core of the demonstration of higher value tactic. She will think that if you provide value for other women, it is likely that you also have value for her too.
2. Alpha Male Mentality
Act like a leader of men. In terms of human history, women like aligning themselves with the tribal leader so that they can benefit from his social resources. Today, this mentality is still manifested in everyday social interaction.
For more information, see our article on How to Be an Alpha Male (without being a douchebag).
3. Social Proof
Humans have a strange habit of inferring the value of objects or people based on how well others respond to them. We explained social proof in our article, “How to Charm a Girl Instantly: Secrets of Seductive Charisma Explained.” In short, you can build social proof by having other people respond to you favorably in social situations. Women will place a high value on you if they notice other treating you well (or talking about you favorably).
4. Provider/Protector Frame
If she were to be aligned with you, she too will feel and be protected. A true leader puts the well being of the tribe before himself. You can display these traits by taking initiative in decision making the benefits your group.
Other Ways to Demonstrate Higher Value:
Storytelling should be the most important tool in your arsenal. You must always entertain and keep certain groups of interest in stories you tell. Being a good storyteller is a very effective tool for sub communication (more on this later) and women prize it as a valuable skill. Plan your stories and practice them.
Sub communication involves opening threads for the audience to ask about ( e.g., last week I was visiting Japan and there are these soft drink vending machines all over Tokyo, but instead of putting coins, you use you phone to dial for drink)… the open thread here of course is that what were you doing in Tokyo?
Always attract input for your stories but in a way that wouldn’t derail how you intend to finish the story. Sub communication is an innovative way of communicating things about you without even appearing to be trying to communicate it. It doesn’t always need to be verbal. For example, by deliberate not showing interest in beautiful women will give off the impression that you’ve had many beautiful girls in your life before and that her beauty doesn’t particularly faze you.
Subtlety is the trick for success in sub communication. Try to talk about something other than which you are trying to communicate. Use common sense; it is better to err on the side of excessive subtlety. Avoid being that guy who blurts out that I was with my accountant today to find out how much tax I would pay for the $5 million I made last month and he spilled his orange juice in the rug. She will definitely realize that you need not have included how much you made in a story about orange juice ruining a rug.
Always be aware of what you are trying to sub communicate. The following lists of things if effectively sub communicated tend to attract most women:
- An air of unpredictability
- Social Status (Social proof, etc..)
- Curiosity/Intrigue/Unanswered Questions
- Protecting your loved ones/Selflessness
An interactive demonstration of higher value is when you demonstrate your higher value to a woman or groups of women by doing something while they watch. These include being witty around other people, teaching them how to do something, and even show casing your dancing skills in a subtle manner.
The neg is another powerful tool, it help you raise your social value above hers, while at the same time disqualifying yourself as a potential suitor (apparently). For example, if she has well manicured nails, ask if they are real. She may be forced to admit that they aren’t. Done perfectly, this can momentarily embarrass the woman without making you look socially awkward. Your intention was to complement her but it is not your fault that she has those imperfections.
The neg is designed to look like you are disqualifying yourself from hitting on her. This fact alone makes it look like you have other women whom you value more than her. It also makes you a challenge considering that other guys would have fawned over her.
Negs have received some criticism in the PUA community for being potentially “degrading.” The trick here is to avoid insulting or hurting the woman. It’s better to use negs in the context of playful teasing.
See also: Cat String Theory.
Hopefully, you now have a better understanding of what a demonstration of higher value is. If you have questions or comments, leave them below!